Sunday, May 17, 2009


Lily is the name for my 13 year old foster girl. I really like Lily. She is wicked smart, and fast and funny. She is kind to small childern and animals. Lily is the kid who will steal your baby and bring him back with a clean diaper and a smile on his napping face all the while looking as cool as a cucumber and not smudging her eyeliner.

Lily's case is very frustrating.  Bad enough to get pulled not bad enough to keep.  Mom is more functional than most I deal with, able to hold down a job and keep the lights on but not able to make it to all the visits because she can not keep track of them. Loves her kids but is unwilling to control them. Lily is in for a lot of reason kids are in foster care (at least in my experience) neglect and lack of supervision. Lily had a medical emergency this week, luckily she is fine but we were unable to get a hold of Mom for 2 1/2 days.  WTF? Than when we did Mom told us that there is a family history of this.  GAH!!!! Why when the families are being compliant are there no medical histories taken? Foster kids have a freakish amount of medical issues, are often at the doctor's office and yet there is no medical history offered or medical records passed on to foster parents.  After this week I fully support medical records being centralized. 

Because of this medical incident Lily is being weaned off her meds.  She is the first kid I have done this with fully (though I have had to put a couple kids on them and have yet to regret it). I am not sure how it will work, but it is necessary and I am curious to meet Lily san meds.  My 11 year old is slowly, slowly, slowly stepping down on one of hers but  is nowhere near off of them.

1 comment:

Anonymous said...

Ugh. I hear ya. We have virtually no medical information on any of our kids and the ones we have now we ended up adopting all of them. We were surprised to discover that one of our sons had asthma that was undisclosed...which we found out when he had an attack and couldn't breath, started vomited from exertion, and had to take him to the ER. Nice.